The whole idea of fuck dates may seem very modern. I remember when the whole hook up culture thing broke out a few years back. It’s as if somebody invented white sliced bread and the world has lost its mind. You know exactly what I’m talking about. Around five to ten years ago, there are all sorts of online newspaper headlines talking about how people are just hooking up and the art of courtship is a dead art.

Well, what do you expect from media? They make their money when they sensationalize news. After all, as the old newspaper maxim goes, if it bleeds, it leads. In other words, people don’t give a damns about good news. People don’t care that your kid came home safe and sound. That’s not news. What’s news is of your kid got run over by a truck. Do you see the difference here? It seems that there is a perverse fascination with bad stuff happening to people.

With that mindset, it doesn’t take a genius to figure out that newspapers will take a social or cultural trend twisted for maximum sensationalism and publish it. That’s how newspapers work because the more eyeballs and attention they grab, the more money they make. It really is too bad because a lot of the initial hand ringing worrying people have over fuck dates is misplaced. Now, I’m not saying that people don’t have the right to worry. After all, the spread of online porn and how it rewires the male heterosexual brain is a cause for concern.

I’m not saying that there is absolutely nothing to be worried about. Still, the idea o fuck dates should not be shocked because they never left. Believe it or not, people have always engaged in fuck dates, they just haven’t been all that public about it until recently. In fact, one of the most famous scientific sex studies The Kinsey Report chronicled a lot of the nasty behavior that you would normally associate with modern fuck dates all the way back in the mid-1940s.

Make no mistake about it, the more things change, the more they stay the same. The sexual behaviors and shenanigans that we get all bent out of shaped about in today’s world were actually old behaviors. People just have different societal and cultural norms in expressing the same impulses but the impulses have basically remained unchanged. If you were to pull back the dial to an even earlier period, let’s say, 1000 years ago, the same behaviors occurred.

We really haven’t changed as a species. We just change in terms of fashion as well as or choice of words in describing certain behaviors. Fuck dates are here to stay. What has changed is our behavior regarding fuck dates. In the United States and Western Europe, fuck dates are not just tolerated but they’re accepted. I can see why this is the case because most people feel that time is a luxury. They simply don’t have the time to go through the normal dating ritual. In fact, simply showing up for dinner ad chit chatting over dessert may take too much effort for a lot of busy people.

This is why is such a phenomenon in the United States. It’s catching on. More and more people are going to fuck dates because they have convinced themselves that they really don’t have the time for real deep intimacy. This really is too bad because really isn’t an indictment on how we have defined the quality of our time.

Everybody is on the same page as far as the idea that time is precious in irreplaceable. What people have a healthy disagreement about is how we should behave given that scarcity. Fuck dates are just symptoms, they are not the disease.